I know this comment doesn't relate to this post, but I was up late and reading back through both of your blogs and I kept asking myself the same question so I thought I'd just ask you!
Throughout many of your posts I find that part of why you stayed was a fear of being alone. That you couldn't not be with anyone. While you are now out of the bad relationship, you're already in deep with the next one before the judge signed. I know your relationship with DH was over a long time ago, and my point isn't the time thing. How can you expect yourself to fully heal if you don't embrace that and be alone?
I know through all of this that you would never settle for the abuse or substances again, but I can't help to think that this will just feed into that fear and possibly cause you to settle for something else in the future (less traumatic, but settling non the less)!
If your life has been affected by alcoholsim or addiction and you feel like you have something you want to write here feel free to e-mail it to me at neverforgetwecried{at}yahoo{dot}com.
I am open to guest posts as I know that sometimes it just feels better to be able to write it down and send it out into the world.
The Players
Munchkin = My son DH = My Ex-Husband M = Possible New Love Interest
Mom = My Mom Dad = My Dad
SIL = Sister-In-Law MIL = Mother-In-Law FIL = Father-In-Law Step-MIL = Step-Mother-In-Law
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I know this comment doesn't relate to this post, but I was up late and reading back through both of your blogs and I kept asking myself the same question so I thought I'd just ask you!
Throughout many of your posts I find that part of why you stayed was a fear of being alone. That you couldn't not be with anyone. While you are now out of the bad relationship, you're already in deep with the next one before the judge signed. I know your relationship with DH was over a long time ago, and my point isn't the time thing. How can you expect yourself to fully heal if you don't embrace that and be alone?
I know through all of this that you would never settle for the abuse or substances again, but I can't help to think that this will just feed into that fear and possibly cause you to settle for something else in the future (less traumatic, but settling non the less)!
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